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Would you 1 month 3 weeks ago #3624173

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Knowing you had a terminal illness with maybe a few good years left, would you accept a romantic relationship with one who knows.

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If both people knew the details yes, why not?

I don't think people should give up on life before they die.

All relationships have their problems and you could meet someone whilst you are well and healthy and start a relationship and then be knocked down by a bus and killed.

We are all on a clock.

As long as the truth is not being kept from anyone I would say GO FOR IT!
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Would you 1 month 3 weeks ago #3624203

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YES! Why not? True happiness is hard to come by. Illness should not be a barrier to this. Provided the prospective partner is entirely aware of the others' health situation and able to accept whatever situation that may be impending. Then if both are happy to proceed then have at it and good luck. Grab your chances where ever they appear.
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Whether your partner knows or not......go for it. Life is for living

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Yes. It might make all the difference to the prognosis.

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Tabby wrote: Knowing you had a terminal illness with maybe a few good years left, would you accept a romantic relationship with one who knows.



Personally no I wouldn't - it would not help my mental well-being at all.
But we are all different, and someone else may benefit psychologically from the relationship.

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Would you 1 month 3 weeks ago #3624242

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Don't listen to me but if the opposite person was not just after your money go and marry them, good luck.
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Would you 1 month 3 weeks ago #3624295

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Tabby wrote: Knowing you had a terminal illness with maybe a few good years left, would you accept a romantic relationship with one who knows.



Depends on what you mean by ‘relationship’ .....I think I would accept any kind of companionship and/or love and FUN coming my way...BUT i would not marry, or move in together with us both knowing I only have a few good years left ...I would not want that person feeling an obligation to ‘look after’ me or to be my ‘caretaker’, as an illness progressed.

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Would you 1 month 3 weeks ago #3624320

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"I would not want that person feeling an obligation to ‘look after’ me or to be my ‘caretaker’, as an illness progressed."

And therein lies the rub because once you get into a romantic relationship the other person will, more likely than not, feel obligated.
Personally I would not start a romantic relationship for that very reason.
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Would you 1 month 3 weeks ago #3624323

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Tabby wrote: Knowing you had a terminal illness with maybe a few good years left, would you accept a romantic relationship with one who knows.


No. I don't want someone to be my carer and I sure as hell don't want to be theirs, so I'll never enter into another relationship, ever. I see no point in it for either party.

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