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What has your Dad taught you? 3 weeks 3 days ago #3618647

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Graham wrote: My Father was a vile abusive thieving drunk. The only things he taught me was how to hide my money and possessions before he stole them and sold them for drink money. I also learnt how to run as a child with a dislocated hip whilst he refused me medical treatment. He also taught me how to survive being beaten and have things thrown at me and on one occasion, be spat on.

So I don't really know what it's like to grow up having a decent father I could respect, and the only genuine thing he taught me was hatred.


Ohhh Graham I am so sorry ... there are some really sh*t parents aren't there? Really sorry that yours was so bad. In a way I guess he taught you how NOT to a father. I hope you had some good father figures in your life, they can make a big difference (((HUG)))
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What has your Dad taught you? 3 weeks 2 days ago #3618750

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My father was a violent man who beat my mother and sexually abused my sister, I have ended up suffering from BPD because of him.

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I would not know where to start.
My Dad was a giving person and he loved me, my siblings and his grand kids. He came from a wonderful family, they weren't perfect but I'm grateful I was with them and spent time with them. I like seeing the cousins on his side.
He had a love of music, art, nature, science. His father, brother and himself were all engineers. Lots of good memories. That all rubbed off on me. I'm not an engineer though.

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What has your Dad taught you? 3 weeks 2 days ago #3618774

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My Father was not the worst father in the world, But he was way down the list of being one of the .best ! Never happier than when criticising, humiliating or ridiculing his family. Not a grain of compassion ....in him! Can remember coughing m heart up as a 4-5 ....yr old kid, gasping for breath...being told to "Shut up coughing"! Not an ounce of affection in him either. whether it was his nature to be like that, or his .up bringing, I don't know.

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What has your Dad taught you? 3 weeks 2 days ago #3618786

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My dad taught me how to change a washer on a tap and wire a plug ,both have come in useful...good old dad

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While men of his generation had difficulty verbalizing love, my father expressed it through action, and always took time for me. He had a work ethic and was self-sacrificing to give his family a decent life. A perfectionist in all things, he taught me "If it's a job worth doing, do it well."
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What has your Dad taught you? 3 weeks 2 days ago #3618829

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I was young when my gorgeous dad died, he was a beautiful man, the love he had for both my mum and I just oozed from him,he was so loving,caring,respectful,dignified,his family and friends were everything to him,
I have taken after him,my family and friends mean so very much to me,
I feel so honoured to have had a wonderful father,
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What has your Dad taught you? 3 weeks 2 days ago #3618834

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To be humble.

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What has your Dad taught you? 3 weeks 2 days ago #3618835

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kingfisher wrote: My father was a violent man who beat my mother and sexually abused my sister, I have ended up suffering from BPD because of him.


And I'm sorry that your father was like that too kingfisher. Thank goodness that BDP can be managed and treated and you don't have to be labelled with that for your sense of self and who you are. The best revenge is thriving despite our failing parents !

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What has your Dad taught you? 3 weeks 2 days ago #3618836

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My dad taught us from a very young age, tolerance and generosity how to embrace diversity and respect differences without judging,

On a practical side he taught me how to cook, bake, play the piano, ride a bike, fish, play petanque and chess. He taught me about philosophy and how to do homework, write essays and short stories and letters, how to recognise the different instruments in a piece of music etc.. etc... He was a gem and had a great sense of humour. I miss him very much.
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